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Booth Babe Shame

Yesterday on Twitter I came across the following in my feed:

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I was horrified and angry, responding with the following:

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I also posted something similar on Linkedin, Facebook and Google+.  I never heard from the vendor, but I did hear back from some pretty offended men and women, both technologists and non-technologists.

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Why are we still having this conversation? Why would ANY vendor think it’s appropriate to make make the staff at a technical conference dress like employees at Hooters?

There’s a bitter irony in reading article after article about improving the diversity in STEM fields and then seeing this. I’m getting pretty tired of feeling like a second class citizen in this industry. I’d like to be able to go to a conference and know that I’ll be treated with the respect due a senior-level technologist, not minimized because I happen to have a uterus. Clearly, I’m not the only person who feels this kind of behavior is no longer acceptable and shouldn’t be tolerated. I encourage anyone equally appalled to call out the vendor in question. If we can’t appeal to their morals, maybe they’ll think twice if it impacts their bottom line.

UPDATE: I’ve been corrected regarding the venue. This event took place at a Vegas night club, but I’m STILL offended. I don’t see any Booth Bros. Why did this vendor feel the need to have women promote their product this way?

UPDATE 6/28: Looks like people at Nutanix are embarrassed, but I’m not sure if this will actually translate to any awareness on their part.

“In a blog post Friday, Julie O’Brien, vice president of corporate marketing at Nutanix, apologized for the stunt while also offering an explanation of what went wrong.”

This was in my feed this morning: Nutanix CMO After Risque Conference Stunt: I Will Resign If It Happens Again.

 

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No More Mrs. Nice Guy

Time To Reclaim My Bitch Status.

I’m exhausted. I’m tired of working in a field that’s become a veritable wasteland for women. And while everyone seems to be discussing the absence of women in STEM fields, it’s really “a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”

I also know that even the men who care about this issue are on empathy overload. So where’s the disconnect? Why are we still stuck at the beginning of the conversation?

I think it’s because women have become classic enablers in a dysfunctional situation. Instead of standing our ground and demanding equal, gender-neutral treatment, we feel obligated to play by a different set of rules. We constantly work to gain approval, managing the discomfort of those around us by walking on eggshells, ultimately failing to realize that this behavior keeps us shackled to the past. Is anyone telling men to “Lean in?”

So go ahead and say it. I know you want to. BITCH. I’m not going crumble and run into the ladies room. I’m not going to weep into my monitor. I’ve decided to wear that Bitch Label as a badge of honor. Because as Tina Fey said, “Bitches get stuff done.” So screw Sheryl Sandberg’s polite, Lean-In Army. If that’s what you need to call me in order to feel less threatened,both men and women, then do it. I’m prepared to own it.

Pix Plz from xkcd.com

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