Time To Reclaim My Bitch Status.
I’m exhausted. I’m tired of working in a field that’s become a veritable wasteland for women. And while everyone seems to be discussing the absence of women in STEM fields, it’s really “a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.”
I also know that even the men who care about this issue are on empathy overload. So where’s the disconnect? Why are we still stuck at the beginning of the conversation?
I think it’s because women have become classic enablers in a dysfunctional situation. Instead of standing our ground and demanding equal, gender-neutral treatment, we feel obligated to play by a different set of rules. We constantly work to gain approval, managing the discomfort of those around us by walking on eggshells, ultimately failing to realize that this behavior keeps us shackled to the past. Is anyone telling men to “Lean in?”
So go ahead and say it. I know you want to. BITCH. I’m not going crumble and run into the ladies room. I’m not going to weep into my monitor. I’ve decided to wear that Bitch Label as a badge of honor. Because as Tina Fey said, “Bitches get stuff done.” So screw Sheryl Sandberg’s polite, Lean-In Army. If that’s what you need to call me in order to feel less threatened,both men and women, then do it. I’m prepared to own it.